不见棺材不落泪

bù jiàn guān cai bù luò lèi

lit. not to shed a tear until one sees the coffin (idiom)

fig. refuse to be convinced until one is faced with grim reality

no; not so

jiàn

to see

guān

coffin

cai

material

no; not so

luò

to fall or drop

lèi

(bound form) tears; teardrops